When indecisiveness occurs
there is a lack of confidence, a lack of no fear
a pessimistic outlook takes over, and other’s cynical/pessimistic opinions and attitudes seem to take on more value than one instinctively knows are not a positive or productive way to move forward
leads to self doubt
leads to regarding the self as incapable, incompetent, uncommitted, unworthy, undeserving, marking the self as a loser
the kind nature one might have at this point will back away from stepping on anyone’s toes, and opt to make the self suffer first, letting somebody else enjoy the victory and let them have the “gold star”
even carry a guilt trip for being involved in the midst of a bad experience
leads to lack of fortitude and purpose, responsibility, accountability
and a lack of action on own accord without a desperate need to do so, or without someone else’s prodding
lack of confidence in own mindset leads to relying on others’ opinions on what to do, what should be done
which leads to additional confusion, unsurity, and insecurity
leads to blindness about what/if to do anything at all
leads to an image of weakness for failure to make decisions quickly and follow through a complete thought-out plan
turns into our acceptance of and surrendering to those labels of weakness, incompetence, unknowledgeable and finally giving in to and deciding to live with (up to) that label
all this builds up to that person’s entire personality surrendering to a state of confusion, frustration, anger, bitterness, becoming isolated
we reach a point where we decide to control HOW we deal with those feelings of isolation and which paths we lead on to, asking the question do we learn to stay focused
no matter what obstacles or opinions are in front of us
learn to take into account the good and positive qualities in us, to never discount those positive things that we’ve allowed the negatives to overwhelm
we learn to give up our share in contol, to trust that things may be different but it’s OK for us to allow things to fall into place after we’re confident we’ve made all the necessary preparations and assessments and made a DECISION
